Self-worth is a concept about self that evaluates the value we put on ourselves. It is one of the words we can use to describe how we feel about ourselves which in turn underpins the actions we take towards others.
Self-worth is at the core of who we are as individuals, but also how we think, feel and behave.
We tend to measure our sense of worthiness by gauging and comparingĀ ourselves (thoughts and actions) against what we believe to be the standard or others. We tend to only compare ourselves in areas that matters to us. Noticing the areas from which our sense of value comes from, enables us to further explore our frame of reference for that particular area and identify what drives it.
Self-worth is closely connected to our inner voice. When facing situations where we feel a lower sense of value, our inner voice gets louder. Being able to put forwardĀ enough evidence to challenge our inner voice will quieten it down. Our inner voice, also called our inner critic thrives on our fears and anxious thoughts.
Self-worth comes from a feeling inside oneself, not through someone else or the things we do for someone else. Self-worth is not conditional to anything.
For example: āIF my partner loves me, then I am loveable.ā Shows a condition to feel loveable which depends on someone else. This is likely to indicate low self-worth. Whereas āI am loveable because I am a loving and caring personā is driven by an inner sense of value and recognition and is likely to indicate high self-worth.
Self-worth needs self-acceptance and self-compassion to grow. If we are not kind to ourselves and accept who we are, then we will be more likely to have low self-worth which in turn affects all of the other self-concepts such as self-confidence or self-esteem.
Self-worth is foundĀ when no matter what happens externally, we remain stable within ourselvesĀ in feeling valued.
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